The Dragon Lady's Journey

I had an epiphany yesterday. I realized that the last few arguments, two doozies and one tiff (yes that is what we called it as we were apologizing, 😆), I’ve been involved in were made worse because I refused to disengage. The two “doozies” have both thrown my world into a spin-out. I remember my Grandma saying to me “it takes two to tango,” which was her way of trying to teach me that a fight cannot happen if I disengage. I’m not talking about doing it rudely, let’s not “slam” the proverbial phone down. The trick is to politely, bow out. That may mean that you have to say something such as “I see your point, let me think on that for a while” or “I’m sorry I hurt you, I will try not to do it again.” The thing is that “Being Right” is not really the point in life. I feel at least that being at “Peace” and having “Joy” in our lives is how we win.
Hmm, perhaps I need to revisit my theories on Peace, Joy, and other “States of Being” versus emotions. 🤔
Here is a great article on boundaries https://www.gottman.com/blog/setting-boundaries-with-others/ Have a wonderful day